Wednesday, February 20, 2013

Staying Focused

It's no secret that over time a relationship changes. For some, it changes in ways that make the couple incompatible for one another, and in other relationships these changes, no matter good or bad, only create a stronger and healthier relationship.

Being in a relationship that started in high school, we've seen a ton of changes. Some of those changes were hard and others for the best.

One thing that being together since a freshman & sophomore in high school is that it has allowed Zac and I to grow up together. Don't get me wrong, we still have a whole lot of growing up to do, but we've experienced a fair share and taste of what married life will be like.

We always talk about how easy it was when we were younger, to never worry about finances, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, etc. All of the things that would still categorize us as a child, or dependent. 

But. . . Zac and I never forget to be grateful for the accomplishments we've already had at such as very young adults, and a lot of it took being independent and responsible on our own parts. We can't wait to strive for bigger & better goals. That's a big part of our relationship, to always create bigger goals and to be able to take on obstacles that stand in the way of our goals.

Getting married in 87 days has me really focused on the wedding, but our Pastor [Sam] reminds us that it's not the wedding it's the marriage that matters; and of course, we agree.

I think some of the most important ways to keep a relationship going through thick and thin is to rely on each other [even when you don't want to], be honest of your own feelings & be receptive of your partner's emotions as well. 

And to set the record straight, our relationship will never be perfect and we would never want it to be. But, that doesn't mean we don't strive for that perfection and never ever settle.

My mother-in-law always says its not and will never be a 50/50 relationship, some days you'll give 90% and he'll give 10%, and others you'll give 15% and he'll give 85%. It's not about who owes who what, or who did what last. It's about being a team, and creating a balance that's not based on a 50/50 system. 

So far our love has experienced highs and lows, but no matter what, we have each other. . . and in the very end that's all that matters. It's not how much money we have or don't have. Sure, most of the time as two poor grad students "we don't have two pennies to rub together," (Zac's favorite saying), but that has never changed the way we feel about one another, if anything it's made us focus on the emotional rather than material. God has tested us in many ways, but so far we've made it and we are so very much looking forward to what God has in store for our future, money or not right now, our love & His love.

I think it goes without saying, that I dedicate this post to my one and only.

 [Our first date in 2004. . . so young & naive!]

Truly grateful & so looking forward to our future . . .



1 comment:

  1. Love the first picture of you and zac you both look sooo young! haha and love Deb's quote, she is the best... so happy for you and zac, your wedding is going to be here in no time! :)